today I feel like Eeyore. not so much the nobody loves me part, but just the general attitude.
I am touched my the generosity of spirit of some friends today and at the same time it just kinda increases my general meh-ness of it all.
i need to get over it. having to give up and go "home" is not necessarily inevitable.
Monday, June 29, 2009
Friday, June 26, 2009
marriage
as we approach our 6th wedding anniversary and as my best friend just got married I have been reflecting alot lately on marriage.
what makes marriages work? what makes soooo many of them not work?
My own marriage has been for the most part very easy. we've had our share of difficulties and when talking about it with David the other day we're having a harder time of it now financially then we did when we were both on strike but I think we're happier now then we where then. We were crazy happy then because we had only been married less than 6 months, but now its the long lasting happiness and not the newlywed bliss. But for the most part our marriage has been easy and I am so thankful for that everyday.
and for my husband. oh how I love him. The love grows everyday and it makes me sappy. But especially lately to see how his relationship with God has grown and how he has grown as a man, I am so proud of him.
but the question is why has it been so easy? my mom made a comment to a friend of mine a couple of years ago about our marriage that I had totally forgotten about until recently and i think its part of it. it was something along the lines of David and I just let each other be. yes we share our lives together but we also leave plenty of room for each of us to still be who we are as individuals, we give each other space it was I think my mom was getting at.
and its true we do that. yes he drives me crazy when he comes in to the room I'm in when I'm on the phone no matter who it is, and i drive it him crazy when I come up behind him chewing without realising it. but we still immensely enjoy spending time together and doing random old married couple stuff. and we talk about things when its uncomfortable and we're both ridiculously messy people who neither one of us got the neat freak gene from our parents, but we make it work and the dishes always get washed eventually.
and i don't even know what the point of this is. I Love my husband and and am thankful for him and cant believe 6 years has already flown by, well almost.
what makes marriages work? what makes soooo many of them not work?
My own marriage has been for the most part very easy. we've had our share of difficulties and when talking about it with David the other day we're having a harder time of it now financially then we did when we were both on strike but I think we're happier now then we where then. We were crazy happy then because we had only been married less than 6 months, but now its the long lasting happiness and not the newlywed bliss. But for the most part our marriage has been easy and I am so thankful for that everyday.
and for my husband. oh how I love him. The love grows everyday and it makes me sappy. But especially lately to see how his relationship with God has grown and how he has grown as a man, I am so proud of him.
but the question is why has it been so easy? my mom made a comment to a friend of mine a couple of years ago about our marriage that I had totally forgotten about until recently and i think its part of it. it was something along the lines of David and I just let each other be. yes we share our lives together but we also leave plenty of room for each of us to still be who we are as individuals, we give each other space it was I think my mom was getting at.
and its true we do that. yes he drives me crazy when he comes in to the room I'm in when I'm on the phone no matter who it is, and i drive it him crazy when I come up behind him chewing without realising it. but we still immensely enjoy spending time together and doing random old married couple stuff. and we talk about things when its uncomfortable and we're both ridiculously messy people who neither one of us got the neat freak gene from our parents, but we make it work and the dishes always get washed eventually.
and i don't even know what the point of this is. I Love my husband and and am thankful for him and cant believe 6 years has already flown by, well almost.
Monday, June 22, 2009
Meal Plan Monday
In the name of healthier eating, budgeting and just plain organization i am going back to planning out my meals, plus its just plain fun for a nerd like me!
Monday: Chicken Tacos with black beans and a veggie (not sure yet something seasonal that sounds good with the tacos maybe asparagus? if not too expensive)
Tuesday: Tuna Noodle Casserole
Wednesday: Crockpot Vegetarian "enchiladas"
Thursday:Monte Cristo Sandwiches with summer pasta salad
Friday:Youth Friday,leftover day
Saturday: chickpeas and yellow curry over jasmine rice w/naan
Sunday (6th wedding anniversary,in that honor a couple of Davids favorites): Chicken and Dumplings and Carrot Cake
Monday: Chicken Tacos with black beans and a veggie (not sure yet something seasonal that sounds good with the tacos maybe asparagus? if not too expensive)
Tuesday: Tuna Noodle Casserole
Wednesday: Crockpot Vegetarian "enchiladas"
Thursday:Monte Cristo Sandwiches with summer pasta salad
Friday:Youth Friday,leftover day
Saturday: chickpeas and yellow curry over jasmine rice w/naan
Sunday (6th wedding anniversary,in that honor a couple of Davids favorites): Chicken and Dumplings and Carrot Cake
Sunday, June 14, 2009
cooking
a friend recently texts our other friend while I was driving and it said "I need to learn to cook"
when we got to her house, we were like in theory you know how to cook, well its more actuality
we changed the statement to you need to learn to enjoy cooking
which I can totally relate to
this is something I have just recently learned to do.
when we were first married something i did for various reasons: we needed to eat, and its cheaper than eating out all the time (which we did do our fare share of) and well as the wife it was something i was supposed to do. it had actually nothing to do with liking to cook, or enjoying in the least. I actually thought i was defunct because everyone in my family down to my baby brother loves cooking and can do it with the greatest of ease, almost always without a recipe.actually when we got married I was quite happy letting my husband cook, because he actually liked it more than me
its been within the last 2-3 years that I have gotten more confident in my cooking, and even enjoying it. its only been within the last year that I've even dared trying something without a recipe and just within the last month that I've tried something without a recipe and it turned out not only edible, but delicious. (the great stir fry fiasco of '08 was my first attempt without a recipe and boy or boy was trying to make my own sweet and sour sauce a bad idea)
and you know what? cooking is fun. even more fun is cooking for others, that makes me happy.
and now that i have mastered enjoying cooking, I'm enjoying trying new things and experimenting. and finding healthier recipes and alternatives to things has been fun as well.
oh is this adulthood? or even further than that, preparation for being a mother?
when we got to her house, we were like in theory you know how to cook, well its more actuality
we changed the statement to you need to learn to enjoy cooking
which I can totally relate to
this is something I have just recently learned to do.
when we were first married something i did for various reasons: we needed to eat, and its cheaper than eating out all the time (which we did do our fare share of) and well as the wife it was something i was supposed to do. it had actually nothing to do with liking to cook, or enjoying in the least. I actually thought i was defunct because everyone in my family down to my baby brother loves cooking and can do it with the greatest of ease, almost always without a recipe.actually when we got married I was quite happy letting my husband cook, because he actually liked it more than me
its been within the last 2-3 years that I have gotten more confident in my cooking, and even enjoying it. its only been within the last year that I've even dared trying something without a recipe and just within the last month that I've tried something without a recipe and it turned out not only edible, but delicious. (the great stir fry fiasco of '08 was my first attempt without a recipe and boy or boy was trying to make my own sweet and sour sauce a bad idea)
and you know what? cooking is fun. even more fun is cooking for others, that makes me happy.
and now that i have mastered enjoying cooking, I'm enjoying trying new things and experimenting. and finding healthier recipes and alternatives to things has been fun as well.
oh is this adulthood? or even further than that, preparation for being a mother?
Thursday, June 11, 2009
the everyday
Happiness is found in my everyday
I need to remember this
I had a fantastic day today, what did I do that made it so fantastic?
I babysat for a friend, baked a cheesecake, had a quiet afternoon with my husband, then went to a birthday party.
it doesn't sound like alot but i was going pretty well non stop (and freaking out about the cheesecake getting done) but it was nice.
throw in a child of my own and it would be my ideal. but even without my own baby now I am happy, we are happy.
we may not have our dream jobs and we may be really stretched financially, but God is doing awesome things in our life and I am thankful to that.
These are things I need to remember, the happiness in the everyday
I need to remember this
I had a fantastic day today, what did I do that made it so fantastic?
I babysat for a friend, baked a cheesecake, had a quiet afternoon with my husband, then went to a birthday party.
it doesn't sound like alot but i was going pretty well non stop (and freaking out about the cheesecake getting done) but it was nice.
throw in a child of my own and it would be my ideal. but even without my own baby now I am happy, we are happy.
we may not have our dream jobs and we may be really stretched financially, but God is doing awesome things in our life and I am thankful to that.
These are things I need to remember, the happiness in the everyday
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